Threat to Wife, Muslim-Christian Marriage

in Interfaith Marriage, Interracial Marriage


couple by the sea

If there’s one interfaith marriage that I deem very challenging, that must be a Muslim-Christian marriage. If one partner is devoted Christian from a denomination that observes lots of strict religious beliefs, there’d be overwhelming clashes to arise in the marriage.

But I might be wrong.

I know that some Muslim groups prohibit interfaith marriages. Unless the non-Islam party converts to Islam religion, they don’t permit such marriage. However, there are some Muslim tribes that are not as strict. Some Muslims have actually married a non-Islam.

I’ve a friend Sally. She’s married to a Muslim from Kenya, Africa. She was a Catholic. They’re blessed with one child who’s now an 11th grader. They’re happily married for more than 18 years now.

She’s not an Islam by the time they wed. Her husband never forced her to be converted. But if there’s one big sacrifice that she had to do, it’s food. Muslims don’t eat pork. She could not cook pork at home. Whenever she starves for the meat, she secretly eats outside their home, away from the eyes of her husband and child.

Her husband is a very loving and understanding man. She was allowed to worship in her own Christian ways. Reciting daily Muslim prayers was never enforced on her. She stayed in their sala whenever the father and child had to pray in their room.

She was relatively happy in her marriage but for one big threat – that her husband might look for a second wife. The husband is a jeweler who could afford a second family; therefore he is by culture and by religion allowed to get a second wife.

She raised this concern to her husband and she was pacified by his promise that he loves her enough not to look for a second woman. He says that he’s content with her and that he does not wish to do anything that would upset her. Up to this day, a third party was never an issue in their marriage.

The husband was slowly buying her white gowns. When she asks what they’re for? He tells her that he’s not forcing her to wear them for prayer, “but who knows maybe one day, you’ll change your mind”.

And she did. She woke up one day thinking, why should I not convert? It’d be better for my family. We’ll be one in prayer.

I asked her what her advice would be for couples who are in an interfaith marriage. “Respect each other. Don’t force your belief on your partner because love is a much stronger way to convert than preaching.”

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