Marriage can be very stressful for a number of reasons, i.e children, finances, job, not to mention dealing with your partner’s differences, and it’s up to you whether you will allow yourself to be burnt out or you will do something about it.
I don’t have kids yet but being a partaker of an offbeat marriage, I was a proud recipient of a culture-shock award when I moved to England to join my Italian stallion fiance. The most salient disadvantage of a marital union that stemmed from a long-distance relationship is that both parties don’t get to know each other well before they live together under one roof. So I guess you will allow me to say that offbeat marriage is ten times more risky than marriage already is.
Is love all?
Although love should transcend all borders but in reality, it just can’t be the sole authority and the solution to fix a rift between a husband and a wife. Sometimes a simple situation can magnify into a heated argument just because the wife or the husband is having a hard day at work and take the situation home or vice versa.
So far, this is what I have summed up after attending the first of a two-part Mental Health First Aid Course. Many of us don’t realize that a simple mishandled situation whether at home or at work is caused by an “over-fatigued mind” to put it simply. It is from this vantage point that I realized how important it is to promote mental health.
Mental health defined
But what is mental health? According to Princeton University website,
“Mental health is the psychological state of someone who is functioning at a satisfactory level of emotional and behavioral adjustment.”
Now, do you see where I am coming from? Many of us take for granted our mental health. We make sure that we look good before we leave the house because for us projecting a smart look is important. We look after our physical health but most of the time we neglect our mental health and it is as much important as any other health issue.
How can it all go wrong?
Some marriages that end up in divorce, I believe, started with one or both being unable to keep up with each other. They allowed their emotional incapacity to cope with the situation to get worse until they decided it is better to go each way. And the love that once put them at the top of the world is now probably used up.
What’s worse is that when a husband or a wife has had a bad day at work and when they home they get easily irritated and they take it on their spouse. Nah-ah! Big NO, NO!
10 Simple Steps in Nurturing Mental Health to keep Marriage Intact
Before something like that happen to your marriage, here are simple steps on how to promote mental health to keep you and your better-half on top of any besetting situation. They are all familiar stuff and many of them need not be expensive. They can be done right in the home. Listed below the very simple and doable ones, one can’t have an excuse being unable to do any of them.
You don’t need to wait before your mind is getting over-taxed before doing any of these stuff. There is no better time to start than now and see how it is going to benefit you and your spouse.
- Take a relaxing tea like chamomile and lavender.
- Take a warm bath with aromatic bath foam. (hydrotherapy)
- Lit an aromatic candle. (aromatherapy)
- Listen to relaxing music. (Music therapy)
- Go for a massage. Even if it’s just a foot massage. (Massage therapy)
- Drive in the country-side.
- Take a nature walk.
- Go for a swim.
- Watch some funny movies or video clips online.
- Play football table. (I love this one best)
This is not a complete list, obviously. Feel free to add more.